Marriage

[shauvaun]

I am getting married in 3 weeks and i am a wreck. Any words of wisdom?

[Bikerbettyboop]

Take a deep breath and try to stay calm. Being a basket case isn't going to help!! Just try to enjoy as much of the preparations as you can and most of all enjoy your wedding day!!

Congratulations on the upcoming wedding! How exciting for you!!!

[BBooper]

congratulations!! don't worry, i'm sure the nerves are VERY normal ;)

BBooper
xxx

[shauvaun]

Everyone says that but it is so hard to just let it go you know. 3 weeks is no time when you have kids, work, no vacation yet, last minute things it seems overwhelming. Thanks for the words though cause i was just there losing my mind. And you know the sad part to all of this is that i have a wedding coordinator and still feel over stressed......

[Bikerbettyboop]

I was an event coordinator/promotions director in my past life, so I know exactly what you're going through!! But stressing out isn't going to help. When you feel yourself going crazy... just try to step back ... even if it's just for a few seconds and then try to handle the problems (if there are any) in a more relaxed manner. I know it's hard with all that's going on in your life.. but you'll manage..so hang in there! It will be a beauuuuutiful wedding!

[Neckless]

And you know the sad part to all of this is that i have a wedding coordinator and still feel over stressed

Hahaha...RELAX! That's because it's YOUR wedding!
Doesn't matter WHO coordinates it...YOU just have to have your 2 cents in!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

[shauvaun]

Thanks necklace.... I will keep that in mind because I know my 2 cents can turn into 20:) and god know i dont want to be a bridezilla like them shows that come on.

[Bikerbettyboop]

You won't be a bridezilla.. you have too much sense for that. I can tell you are a "together" person from your posts here. You will be fine. Just remember to enjoy the day and seize the moments and you will create happy beautiful moments!!

[shauvaun]

you know i have to say i have never felt so much love from persons whom i dont know all that well. This is a great feeling Thanks biker betty boop:) :) :)

[Bikerbettyboop]

You're welcome! You feel like a member of the family already!!

[bboop480]

I am getting married in 3 weeks and i am a wreck. Any words of wisdom?
breathe and relax......AND DONT DO IT!!!!!!!................J/K

[shauvaun]

LOL LOL thats funny

[Bikerbettyboop]

breathe and relax......AND DONT DO IT!!!!!!!................J/K

that's a good one BB480! I know you're just joking though... cause I know you love marriage.. right? :confused:

[shauvaun]

I wonder where bboop480 is to answer the question i have been awaiting a few days. You do love marriage right bboop480

[MrsBoopster]

Congratulations on getting married. If you like tea, sit back drink a cup of tea and try to think about what is going to be like after you are married and living happily together with your spouse. It worked for me. Maybe it will work for you to.

[shauvaun]

well mrs boopster i will defenitely give it a try anything to keep my nerves calm. I only have 11 days yikes!!!!!!!

[Bikerbettyboop]

11 days.. wow that is going to fly by!! Hang on for the ride!!

[shauvaun]

yeah time is ticking but since i have gotten encourgement from the ladies I am holding it down:) :)

[Bikerbettyboop]

Do you have everything ready? Any last minute plans?

[shauvaun]

well i am getting my wedding programs coordinated today. I have my second fitting this evening.

next tuesday i am picking my food menu
thursday i am getting marriage liscense.
friday nails and feet done
sat mrng hair appt.

ordering cameras today.

[Bikerbettyboop]

Sounds like you're pretty well on target for a successful day! I know you must be getting very excited!! I'm happy for you!!

[shauvaun]

Thanks I am excited yet I am getting anxiety. I have a few more days. But i just got news that i have no wedding coordinator becasue her mother just died yesterday. So I am looking for someone else last minute.

[boopie1969]

congrats on getting married. I know it can be stressful, I just got married 3 years ago. I planned mine while going taking on a full course at the local college and working so you can do it. Just remember to breathe and relax, I know it's easier said than done. Try to take a relaxing bubble bath, put the headphones on and listen to some relaxing music while you do so, Enya worked for me.

Good luck and congrats again.

[Bikerbettyboop]

Excellent Advice Boopie!! So Shauvaun... relax, enjoy and have a great time!

[Neckless]

Take a deep breath and relax. This is supposed to be a dream come true, a day you'll both remember for the rest of your lives. And it will be. Formal or informal, big or small, any wedding is a bit of a production. While preparation is key to having your big day go off without a hitch, remember to keep things in perspective. And, if you stick to your budget and avoid handling all of the preparations alone, you can keep your stress level down and enjoy the planning process as much as the wedding.

Get a handle on things. Create your organizational plan and put it on paper. Again, be as complete as possible. You may want two worksheets-one pre-wedding checklist and another devoted solely to the wedding day. Get an early start on your list. It's not unusual to find services and sites reserved one or two years in advance.
Here is a short example of items to include on your pre-wedding checklist. You'll want to be much more detailed.

*Reserve a church or other wedding site
*Book a reception site
*Book a caterer
*Book a musician or disc jockey
*Order invitations
*Order flowers
*Book a photographer
*Register for gifts
*Order clothing
*Book honeymoon

When your big day finally arrives, it's natural to have a bad case of nerves. Undoubtedly, some minor mishap will occur, but what may seem like a disaster to you will probably go unnoticed by your guests. Most often, you'll find that all your careful planning pays off.

Your main objective should be to enjoy the day and celebrate your marriage.

Good luck and CONGRATS!!

[Bikerbettyboop]

I think she's pretty much handled everything.. since her big day is this Saturday. She'll be fine.. just has to get over some last minute jitters.

[Bikerbettyboop]

Congratulations Shauvaun !!! Tomorrow is your big wedding day. I hope you have a marvelous and unforgettable day!!

[shauvaun]

Hello everyone I am back. It has been a minute but i made it. I am married now and want to post some pics but not sure how. Can I get some help.

[livingbooper]

Hooray Shauvaun! Congratulations!!!!:D :D :D :D

I'm sure that we would ALL love to see the photos.

There are two ways to show photos. You can upload them here on the forum using its server. A link will appear and we can click into it to see.

If you want to have them show up directly on your post you need to download them to a photo storage site like Photobucket. In Photobucket each photograph has its URL tag listed underneath. Copy that tag and paste it here then you will be good to go!

I hope that this helps!:)

[Neckless]

Hello everyone I am back. It has been a minute but i made it. I am married now and want to post some pics but not sure how. Can I get some help.


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Hey...BOOPERS...It's SHAUVAUN!! She DID it!!!

CONGRATS SHAUVAUN!!!!!

[Bikerbettyboop]

Hooray Shauvaun! Congratulations!!!!:D :D :D :D

I'm sure that we would ALL love to see the photos.

There are two ways to show photos. You can upload them here on the forum using its server. A link will appear and we can click into it to see.

If you want to have them show up directly on your post you need to download them to a photo storage site like Photobucket. In Photobucket each photograph has its URL tag listed underneath. Copy that tag and paste it here then you will be good to go!

I hope that this helps!:)

Hi Shauvaun... hopefully you can follow these instructions and share some photos of your exciting wedding day with us!!

[Neckless]

again...

Congrats Shauvaun!!!!!
follow the instructions and share some photos of your exciting wedding.

[Bikerbettyboop]

We've missed you Shauvaun.. hope to hear from you soon and see some photos...

[Neckless]

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BET you were a MOST BOOPTIFUL Bride!

[boopie1969]

Can't wait to see some pictures of your wedding.

[Bikerbettyboop]

I'm looking forward to pics of the beautiful bride and groom's ceremony too!

[NikkiBoop]

Congrats Shauvaun!!!! I'm so happy for you! And I can't wait to see the pictures of one of the most beautifuliest brides ever! I am sure that all went well and now you can enjoy your honeymoon to the fullest! Congrats once again and the best of luck to the both of you in the future!

[Bikerbettyboop]

Well where is she so we can see her wonderful photos? I'm anxious... anyone else anxious to see them too?

[livingbooper]

Oh yes, I can't wait to see them too! I love wedding pictures! Now it will be about nine more months till my little sister's wedding.

I hope Shauvaun has a scanner. I bet most of her pictures, the best ones, are regular photographs... They'd need to be scanned. If not, maybe she has a friend or relative with one....?

[Bikerbettyboop]

That's right LivingB! Your sister's wedding is coming up next year!

Any wedding bells ringing in your future????

[livingbooper]

That's right LivingB! Your sister's wedding is coming up next year!

Any wedding bells ringing in your future????

Oh no.... no wedding bells here.... I think that Jack may want to marry some day but I've been married and divorced twice. Every time the guy says he's not interested in my house and each time I am forced to pay for the increase in equity in a settlement. It is way too expensive for me to do that anymore, especially now.

Every time I married I did it for love and it was supposed to be forever. But as smart as I am I'm really stupid when it comes to men and I always seem to pick losers....

If things don't work out with Jack and I end up meeting a man with assets himself where he has at least as much to lose as I then I may consider it...

[Bikerbettyboop]

Oh... Sorry to hear that you've been divorced before.. me too and I hope and pray that it never happens to me ever again. I think I've been pretty blessed this time around. Don and I have been married for 10 years now and he's my best friend as well as my hubby!!

[Neckless]

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I brought the camera. Anymore weddings??

[livingbooper]

Oh... Sorry to hear that you've been divorced before.. me too and I hope and pray that it never happens to me ever again. I think I've been pretty blessed this time around. Don and I have been married for 10 years now and he's my best friend as well as my hubby!!
You are indeed very blessed BBB! Your hubby, your best friend, your band mate.... who could ask for anything more???? I am happy for you, and envious.... Maybe some day I will have what you have. Sharing common interests and having repect for each other are some of the most important things!

[Bikerbettyboop]

Thanks Lizzy for your nice sentiments. He's out there, just keep looking if your current boyfriend isnt' the right one. You're wise not to rush into anything. Hugs right back at you!!

[bboop480]

You are indeed very blessed BBB! Your hubby, your best friend, your band mate.... who could ask for anything more???? I am happy for you, and envious.... Maybe some day I will have what you have. Sharing common interests and having repect for each other are some of the most important things!
that is so true about theresa...she is truely blessed!!!!

[livingbooper]

Yes, she is a very lucky girl!

[Bikerbettyboop]

Thanks .. I do feel blessed. I am fortunate to have good family and good friends and good health. BTW My grandmother is doing well enough that she went to church Friday evening and today!! Hooray!!

[MissyMom]

Hello, I don't think that you have anything to worry about. I have been married for almost 10 years and I love every min. of it. I would not give anything for my Husband and my children. I know that it may have you worried now but it will be great. I really didn't start living until i got married. I think it is great that you are getting married to someone who you love and will love for the rest of your life. I know that I will love my husband for the rest of my life and there is nothing more that I would want to do than to make him happy.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!51292

[Bikerbettyboop]

Congrats on being married 10 years... that's a great start!!

[lilbabyboop]

Congrats on being married 10 years... that's a great start!!

congrats to all of you

[Bikerbettyboop]

My husband and I have been married 13 years..... seems like it was just yesterday... time is flying by!

[leboop448]

We made it to 35 years!!!!! It seems there was always us.

[Bikerbettyboop]

We made it to 35 years!!!!! It seems there was always us.

Congratulations LeBoop!! That's so great... wow 35 years... that is excellent! What a gift!!

[baybay]

Me in my hubby has just got to 4 years in we been together for 6 he is my best friend my everything

my mom in dad has been together for 50 years in thay have been married for 45 years that is a blessin

[Bikerbettyboop]

Me in my hubby has just got to 4 years in we been together for 6 he is my best friend my everything

my mom in dad has been together for 50 years in thay have been married for 45 years that is a blessin

It always makes me happy to hear about people who have happy and strong marriages!!

Congrats to your mom and dad... that is awesome Bay Bay!! :D

[baybay]

it always makes me happy to hear about people who have happy and strong marriages!!

Congrats to your mom and dad... That is awesome bay bay!! :d

iam on the phone with her now in she say's thank you

[Lady Di W]

My husband and I have been married 13 years too. We have been together about 18 years though.

[Bikerbettyboop]

Well you've got us beat in the number of years that you've been together... however, that being said... My husband and I have known each other since we were babies!!

[MissyMom]

It really dosen't mattter how long, just as long as you both know that yo are in love with each othe and that you are going to stay that way for the rest of you lives.

[Bikerbettyboop]

It really dosen't mattter how long, just as long as you both know that yo are in love with each othe and that you are going to stay that way for the rest of you lives.

Very well stated my dear!!! :)

[MissyMom]

Very well stated my dear!!! :)Thank you. I really believe that if you are going to get married that it should be with someone that you are going to love for the rest of your lives.

[Lady Di W]

I agree as well BikerBetty and Missymom. The love is all that matters

[baybay]

That is so true in thay are with all the up's in down in 9 kids thay are still in love thay goin to n.c this weekend to see my daddy's people i just hope our love last as long as there's

[Bikerbettyboop]

I hope they have a good trip going to North Carolina... I heard the weather is bad there right now.

[lilbabyboop]

I hope they have a good trip going to North Carolina... I heard the weather is bad there right now.

iam trying to go with them

[MissyMom]

I hope they have a good trip going to North Carolina... I heard the weather is bad there right now.Yes the weather is still bad here. we are still getting alot of rain at the house but some of the places I have been today with my husband the sun is shining. I hope that you are well.

[baybay]

Yes the weather is still bad here. we are still getting alot of rain at the house but some of the places I have been today with my husband the sun is shining. I hope that you are well.

ya thay know thay say thay are going to wait untill monday in see what is looks like them

[richard kolasch]

It really dosen't mattter how long, just as long as you both know that yo are in love with each othe and that you are going to stay that way for the rest of you lives.

Hi Missy,My wife divorce me during Desert Storm back in 1989.
Our Unit was on alert to go.

Bunny and I been together since 1998.

[MissyMom]

Hi Missy,My wife divorce me during Desert Storm back in 1989.
Our Unit was on alert to go.

Bunny and I been together since 1998.
I am sorry about your wife. I am glad to hear that you and Bunny have been together this long. You know my husband and I got married Dec. 19th 1998.

[Anna Katrina]

Me in my hubby has just got to 4 years in we been together for 6 he is my best friend my everything

my mom in dad has been together for 50 years in thay have been married for 45 years that is a blessin

Hi baybay...my husband and I have also married in 2004. And my parents celebrated this year in June her golden wedding (50 years)...:D

[MissyMom]

That is so true in thay are with all the up's in down in 9 kids thay are still in love thay goin to n.c this weekend to see my daddy's people i just hope our love last as long as there'sThanks I hope that it dose to. I told my husband when we got married that he was stuck with me for the rest of his life and he feels the same way. When are you coming to NC?

[Bikerbettyboop]

Oh I don't know if I will get to North Carolina in the near future. I take care of my elderly handicapped mom and I have horses and it's difficult to get away for more than a few days.

[MissyMom]

Oh I don't know if I will get to North Carolina in the near future. I take care of my elderly handicapped mom and I have horses and it's difficult to get away for more than a few days.I know what that is like. We used to have horses but it got to be to much because we just didn't have the time. Hope you are all doing well.

[taximan1]

I am getting married in 3 weeks and i am a wreck. Any words of wisdom?

:confused:know HOW to HOLD them and know how to fold THEM or RUN when the DEALING done....................sounds like GAMBLING POKER

[MissyMom]

:confused:know HOW to HOLD them and know how to fold THEM or RUN when the DEALING done....................sounds like GAMBLING POKERWhy do you think that is? Some know how ti Hold them and some just Fold them when it is goood for them.

[Bikerbettyboop]

I know what that is like. We used to have horses but it got to be to much because we just didn't have the time. Hope you are all doing well.


yes horses are a lot of work and money but I think it must be a "girl" thing to love horses so much!! LOL!!

[MissyMom]

yes horses are a lot of work and money but I think it must be a "girl" thing to love horses so much!! LOL!!Me to!! (LOL)

[bboop480]

i hate being married...i hate my husband.....he is a drunk...and good for nothing.....thats what i think about being married....

[MissyMom]

i hate being married...i hate my husband.....he is a drunk...and good for nothing.....thats what i think about being married....I am sorry that you feel that way. I agree with you though. I told my husband before we got married that I wouldn't marry him if he wanted to drink, do drugs, or try to hit me. I watched my Mom go through all of it and I won't stand for it. Why are you still with him if you are not happy? Just asking you don't have to tell me if you don't want to.

[baybay]

i am sorry that you feel that way. I agree with you though. I told my husband before we got married that i wouldn't marry him if he wanted to drink, do drugs, or try to hit me. I watched my mom go through all of it and i won't stand for it. Why are you still with him if you are not happy? Just asking you don't have to tell me if you don't want to.

i would like to know that to is it for the kids or the money

[baybay]

thanks i hope that it dose to. I told my husband when we got married that he was stuck with me for the rest of his life and he feels the same way. When are you coming to nc?

iam not comein down until after the newyear but my mom in dad are down the thay came down yesterday until friday thay are in roxboro n.c

[Bikerbettyboop]

I hope they have a good safe trip Bay Bay.

[baybay]

i hope they have a good safe trip bay bay.

thank you sweetie thay are on there way back thay say thay had a good time

[Bikerbettyboop]

I'm happy to hear that they had a good time. Do they live near you?

[baybay]

i'm happy to hear that they had a good time. Do they live near you?

yes a few blocks away i can walk to there house i be glad when thay get home

[Bikerbettyboop]

It's nice to have them so close isn't it? My mom and my sister and my brother live close to me too! I can walk to their houses. Mom is immediately next to me.

[baybay]

it's nice to have them so close isn't it? My mom and my sister and my brother live close to me too! I can walk to their houses. Mom is immediately next to me.

now that is nice now that iam older in have stop all the runin around i wish i lived next to mine but its still good to able walk to get to them

[Bikerbettyboop]

My mom is handicapped and she never learned how to drive, so it's best to have her living close to me. I'm so lazy sometimes I just drive to my sister's house instead of walking... LOL...

[baybay]

my mom is handicapped and she never learned how to drive, so it's best to have her living close to me. I'm so lazy sometimes i just drive to my sister's house instead of walking... Lol...

i do that to in my sister dont even live a mile away

[Bikerbettyboop]

My sister only lives 5 acres away... sometimes I walk down there but mostly I drive... too lazy or too tired most of the time... LOL..

[baybay]

I no the feelin thats how iam when it comes to my sister in my oldest son

[Bikerbettyboop]

My sister almost always walks over here... I told her she should drive but she laughs at me.

[baybay]

My sister dont walk to my house but my son comes to my house everyday some times i think he lives here

[MissyMom]

i would like to know that to is it for the kids or the moneyI hope that you will make the right decision for you and your kids you just have to trust that you are making the best choise that you can.

[MissyMom]

iam not comein down until after the newyear but my mom in dad are down the thay came down yesterday until friday thay are in roxboro n.cThat is great. We are about an hour and a half away from there.

[Bikerbettyboop]

A couple of my neighbors were here yesterday and they've been married 26 years!

[MissyMom]

that is a long time for two people to share thier lives together. My husbands gandparents have been married for 55 years. I think that is great.

[Bikerbettyboop]

that is a long time for two people to share thier lives together. My husbands gandparents have been married for 55 years. I think that is great.

That is great!! Congratulations to two people who definitely know how to have a successful marriage!! I love hearing about that! ;)

[baybay]

That is great. We are about an hour and a half away from there.

that is great maybe next time iam there we can meet

[Bikerbettyboop]

That would be great if you two could meet up!

[lilbabyboop]

That would be great if you two could meet up!

i hope so becouse we go there about 3times a year

[MissyMom]

that is great maybe next time iam there we can meet
I think that would be great. I hope that we can too. Hope you are doing well and that you had a great time here.

[lilbabyboop]

I think that would be great. I hope that we can too. Hope you are doing well and that you had a great time here.

we always have fun when we come down there my grandma was born in roxboro we have alot of family down all of my greatgrandfather's people

[MissyMom]

I am glad to hear that. We live in a small town you blink you will miss it. I can tell you this it is close to Mt. Airy, and Dobson and Elkin NC. I to hear from you soon.

[lilbabyboop]

I am glad to hear that. We live in a small town you blink you will miss it. I can tell you this it is close to Mt. Airy, and Dobson and Elkin NC. I to hear from you soon.

ok my grandma will be on later

[MissyMom]

Ok!!! Hope that you all are doing well.

[Bikerbettyboop]

my nephew moved close to the NASCAR raceway in North Carolina.

[MissyMom]

That is the Lowes' Motor Seedway in Charlotte NC. That is very busy town. I live about 1:30 from there.

[Bikerbettyboop]

Wow that's so cool.... I haven't heard from my nephew since he moved..

[MissyMom]

I hope that he will like it there! I know that it is a very busy town, it is one of the largest cities in NC.

[Bikerbettyboop]

He moved from Phoenix after having lived in the Los Angeles area, so I think he's used to big towns.

[MissyMom]

i am glad that he is used to big cities. I hope that he will be happy here. Maybe one day if you come to visit him we can get together and have lunch and sit and talk.

[Bikerbettyboop]

Don't know if I will ever go to see him... but if I do, I will let you know.

[MissyMom]

Okay that would be great. Hope you are have a great day?

[Bikerbettyboop]

Everyday is a good day for me... even through sad times, I still feel blessed to be healthy and alive.

[baybay]

Hello to all you happy married people

[Bikerbettyboop]

That's a very nice greeting Bay Bay!

[Aminal]

All I can say is that marriage is a great institution if you want to be institutionalized . Seriously though I'm on my second marriage. I waited 12 years between them to make sure I was ready. I wouldn't trade marriage for anything. I wanted to get remarried, I just wanted to be sure it was right and to the right person. It was, and the 23rd of May was my 10th Wedding Anniversary and I can Honestly say I love her more now than I did then.
I like having someone to share my hopes and dreams with. A person I can trust and confide in. A person I can be there for and I know will be there for me. I guess that is all I have to say about marriage except that I'm extremely happy in mine.

[Bikerbettyboop]

wow that's fantastic!! Congratulations on finding the right person and for being married 10 years!! Good for you folks!!!!

[MissyMom]

I sm glad to hear that there are so many people out there that have been together for so long. In two months on the 19th of Dec. me and my huddy will be married for 10 GREAT and WONDERFUL years. I really think that GOD sent him sepically for me to love and he knew what kind of person we both needed to love. I believe that god makes one person for everyone and sometimesit takes time to find that one person but in time everyone will find the one true love that they are ment to be with. I love him and he is my heart and my soiul and I wouldn't give him up for nothing. I wish everyone that best on finding the one true person that they are ment to be with. Congraulation to anyone and everyone that has found the person that they are supposed to be with for the rest if thier lives. Hope to hear back for evryone one this to see if everyone feels the same way.

[lilbabyboop]

I sm glad to hear that there are so many people out there that have been together for so long. In two months on the 19th of Dec. me and my huddy will be married for 10 GREAT and WONDERFUL years. I really think that GOD sent him sepically for me to love and he knew what kind of person we both needed to love. I believe that god makes one person for everyone and sometimesit takes time to find that one person but in time everyone will find the one true love that they are ment to be with. I love him and he is my heart and my soiul and I wouldn't give him up for nothing. I wish everyone that best on finding the one true person that they are ment to be with. Congraulation to anyone and everyone that has found the person that they are supposed to be with for the rest if thier lives. Hope to hear back for evryone one this to see if everyone feels the same way.

thats how my grandma feels about her hubby thay are always all over each other in iam so happy for her becouse she has been throught so much iam just happy for them

[Bikerbettyboop]

It's great to be in a happy marriage!!

[booper looper]

On September 25, 2008 I celebrated my 9th anniversary !! I Love my husband most of the time but there are times when he is the worst jerk or I'm being a evil witch and neither of us really feel all that much love !!! But then we stop and remember all the reasons we got together in the first place and we feel LOVE agian. My husband is my very best friend and I am his, we both have other friends but at the end of the day we only want to spend time with each other. This is my 4th marriage and his 1st and he was 43 and I was 38 when we got married so we were both well grown,eyes wide open, and ready to settle down with that one special person. I think we will be together until one of us leaves this earth and that's the way marriage was ment to be..............

[baybay]

I know how you feel my husband in my kids are my life we got a new car in things have really been alittle crazy but i beleave it will all work out he say betty stuff can not go in both cars so i put it all away in just did the new car then he says he dont know why we have to cars when he dont like to drive so i dont know what to do