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livingbooper
08-07-2006, 03:54 PM
Hi Boopers.

I have been debating as to whether I should post this or not, mainly because I am so embarrassed about how stupid I was. I am usually a pretty smart cookie. But I am swallowing my pride because telling people about this incident will hopefully save others from similar misfortune.

I wrote all about it to my mother so I will just copy and paste that email since it was complicated and I'd already written about it once or twice already. This happened to me while I was suffering from lack of sleep due to staying up with Kira most of the night worrying and caring for her, and this happened about 2 days before she died. I'm sure that I would not have been so easily conned had I not been so tired.

Hi Mom.
I just had a very horrible day yesterday and an aweful night.
Yesterday I had my purse stolen from my desk at work. The thief/thieves made things worse by calling me, first pretending that they were from my bank, then calling me and pretending that they were from the Concord Police Department. The call freaked me out so I wasn't thinking clearly and they were very good. They called as the bank to find out if my "daughter" was authorized to cash a check. I told them that I had no daughter and to call the police. The "banker" kept me on the phone and told me that the police were being contacted and calmly asked me questions to make sure I was Elizabeth Barry. When they asked about a certain check number I looked into my desk drawer and my purse wasn't there. Then the person (he/she I couldn't tell) "Transferred" me to another department by putting me on hold and another voice came on to freeze my account and issue me a new card. Again, calmly in a monotone the person asked me questions that sounded like proceedural questions. I was so upset I wasn't thinking clearly and when she asked about my pin number I said it without thinking. Then she "transferred" me back to the first individual who told me that the police were there and the 19-year-old Pakistani girl was being arrested. I wanted to go to the bank but the banker said that the officer would contact me. Ten minutes later I got a call and an "officer" told me that the suspect had been booked and that they needed to take my handbag to Investigations to photograph it and the contents as evidence and when finished an officer would bring it back to me. The "officer" asked me questions to make sure it was indeed my handbag and had me give him the address of my business. I told him that I worked until 5:30 and he said that the inspector worked until 3 and I would get it back before then. About 20 minutes later I got a call from the "arresting officer" telling me that my handbag would be brought to me in about 30 minutes. I was with a customer and when I was finished with her I noticed that when she'd left over 30 minutes had passed. By then I was calm and thinking and realized that I had been conned. How did the bank know to call me at work? The arresting process seemed so fast (especially for the Concord Police). Then I remembered the PIN number.

I called my bank and asked of there had been an arrest made there today and there had not. I told the bank employees what had happened to me and she transferred me to a supervisor. This person told me that a number of charges had been made using my ATM card. I keep my daily limit low, but the banker said that because I was a good longtime customer they would have let it go over. They froze my account and today I have to go down and open a new one.

Then I called the Concord Police. Twice. The first time I got a dispatcher that told me to cancel my credit cards and then call them back. I was at work and discovered that I could not get enough info online to do this. I needed to be home to do it. I called back and insisted that somebody take a report. The dispatcher transferred me to the wrong field office, but that was to my benefit because I had a lady cop there who was a veteran, very experienced, who wanted to help. I was on the phone for 45 minutes making a report. The lady cop faxed me all kinds of info to help with identity theft. She was very nice and helpful. She even called this morning to see how I was doing. I must have sounded very freaked out. She kept having to slow me down because I was talking so fast. I spent the entire rest of the evening cancelling my credit cards and notifying Equifax to put a fraud alert on my file.

I know better than to tell anyone my PIN number but it was tricked out of me.
There are several lessons to be learned here.
#1 NEVER EVER give out your PIN number to anyone, not even your bank.
#2 If someone calls you identifying themselves as your bank or other financial institution never give them any information. Get their name and number and call back the institution. Don't be lazy, look it up in your records or the phone book.
#3 Make sure your valuables are able to be stored securely at your workplace. The owner of my company installed a lock on my desk drawer so that this will never happen again to me.
#4 Try to keep a clear head. I found that my sense of time went right out the window. Try to think as clearly as you can, realize that everyrhing takes time, including police response.

There are 3 things that saved me from worse damage. I took my cell phone and my keys out of the purse and put them in the top drawer of my desk so the thieves did not get them. Also, I know better than to carry my social security card around. That was at home so the thieves did not get that. NEVER EVER CARRY YOUR SOCIAL SECURITY CARD AROUND WITH YOU. Always keep it in a safe place at home. This will make it easier to secure your identity.

I really truly hope that sharing my story will help other people avoid the loss and hardship that I had to endure. Now I must constantly monitor my credit file since the thieves got my drivers license. I also lost precious photographs I kept in the handbag, including the only wallet sized photo I had of my deceased father.

Please learn from my mistake!!!!!

boopie1969
08-07-2006, 04:14 PM
I am so sorry to hear about this. I can't believe there are people out that would do something like this. I hope the best for you and that everything turns out better. It really could have been worse. It is a very good thing you didn't have your social security card in your purse.



NEVER EVER CARRY YOUR SOCIAL SECURITY CARD AROUND WITH YOU. Always keep it in a safe place at home. This will make it easier to secure your identity.

Very true. I haven't carried mine around for nearly 5 years now. Put away safe.

Again, I am so sorry to hear about all this. You're in my thoughts.

boopie

livingbooper
08-07-2006, 04:44 PM
Aww thanks Boopie.

It's been a couple of weeks now since that's happened. I have all new credit cards, a new checking account and ATM card, and I'm using a purse that is actually a nicer one than the one I lost. The thieves stole about $1500 out of my checking account. I am just making smaller payments on my bills until I get caught up. Life goes on. I have a claim in with the bank and hopefully I will have my money replaced...eventually...

On the brighter side my replacement checks are Betty Boop checks that I got from Checks In The Mail. I bought a beautiful wallet from ClubBetty that I love, and I am awaiting the Biker Betty checkbook cover that should arrive any day now. Since I have to replace all those things, I'm Booping it!:)

I really is hard to believe that there are people like that in the world. I think that is why I was conned like I was. The police officer said that they were professional and that I should not feel bad.
Everyone should be aware that these predators exist in the real world and not just on television.

boopie1969
08-07-2006, 05:03 PM
Well at least things are working out for you.

Heck yeah, if you have to replace all of it you might as well boop it up!!! I just ordered my checks last week from Checks in the Mail. Their so cute. I even order one of the leather check book covers. I couldn't help myself. lol. I'm addicted ya know.

boopie

Bikerbettyboop
08-07-2006, 05:52 PM
I think this is valuable info that every one of us can learn something from. We just can't be too careful these days, can we? Sure was sorry to hear that this happened to you. It is maddening .... isn't it?!

livingbooper
08-08-2006, 01:04 PM
I think this is valuable info that every one of us can learn something from. We just can't be too careful these days, can we? Sure was sorry to hear that this happened to you. It is maddening .... isn't it?!
Yes it is. Maddening in a sense that closing and replacing everything drove me crazy and it also made me angry mad too!:mad:

livingbooper
08-08-2006, 01:08 PM
Well at least things are working out for you.

Heck yeah, if you have to replace all of it you might as well boop it up!!! I just ordered my checks last week from Checks in the Mail. Their so cute. I even order one of the leather check book covers. I couldn't help myself. lol. I'm addicted ya know.

boopie
Ha ha ha ha! Yes, I know that addiction well...lol!
I just got my checkbook cover from ClubBetty and it is FABULOUS! It was much more than I'd expected. It looks like it could double as a wallet if my new wallet won't fit into a smaller purse. It has credit card slots and an ID window, and has the plastic sleeves for photos. The quality is very good.

Theresa, this checkbook cover ROCKS!!!!

Bikerbettyboop
08-08-2006, 06:23 PM
Glad you are happy with the new checkbook cover. I use two of them myself... one for my personal account and one for the business account.

Neckless
08-08-2006, 06:30 PM
Oh My!!!
I am sorry to hear this LivingB. This is very valuable information.
It's too bad people are so darn cruel and uncaring of others.

I hope they get what they deserve. You were at a very vulnerable stage in your life...and these people took advantage of you.

I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you.

As BBB said
It is maddening

Thanks for sharing. One certainly can't be TOOO careful!

Bikerbettyboop
08-08-2006, 06:43 PM
I had someone rip me off once too and it was maddening. I was so angry because it wasn't just about the few hundred dollars that was stolen but the hassle with the band and new accounts and credit card fraud and it was so inconvenient!

Neckless
08-08-2006, 06:44 PM
One certainly can't be TOOO careful!

Bikerbettyboop
08-08-2006, 07:05 PM
No you can't! I learned a valuable lesson from that experience. It was similar to LB's.... had my purse at my desk and someone nabbed it while I was out of the office. The thief was eventually caught and I was glad.. hopefully she learned a lesson too!

livingbooper
08-08-2006, 07:53 PM
I sure did! There is a lock on that desk drawer now.
Also, I won't give up PINs or passwords to ANYBODY.
Really, I knew better than that, which is why I figured out the scam when I calmed down. The phoney phone calls from the thieves really freaked me out, got me very upset. Just as they had wanted me to be.

I think that I will bump this thread from time to time to warn many new Boopers.

bboop480
08-08-2006, 09:36 PM
Oh My!!!!!! Thank You For Sharing....a Valuable Lesson Learned And Passed On...thank You....

Bikerbettyboop
08-09-2006, 09:30 AM
Some of these scam artists are pretty smart cookies. It's so much better to be safe than sorry. These precautions are good words from the wise!!

Bikerbettyboop
08-29-2006, 09:45 AM
Hey Lizzy.. did this all turn out ok for you?

livingbooper
08-29-2006, 02:05 PM
Hey Lizzy.. did this all turn out ok for you?
Yes, the bank gave me back my stolen money. I have heard nothing as to whether anything is being done to apprehend the crooks though. Also I realized last night that my stolen purse contained another item of value... a $40 gift certificate toward a dinner at The Outback Steakhouse... bummer....

On the positive side I am really enjoying the wallet I bought from you. I absolutely LOVE IT! I am very happy with my choice.:D :D :D I like my updated picture on my driver's license a lot better then my old one too...although it still looks like a mug shot, haha!

Bikerbettyboop
08-29-2006, 02:18 PM
Glad to hear that you were able to recover the stolen money ... sorry about the loss of your gift card. We like to eat at Outback too!

Also glad to hear the wallet is working out ok for you. Thanks again for choosing us as your supplier for your Betty Boop products!!!

I have never had a driver's license photo that I liked either! I think the camera intentionally makes us all look bad! LOL! Or at least I do anyway!

livingbooper
08-29-2006, 02:37 PM
Glad to hear that you were able to recover the stolen money ... sorry about the loss of your gift card. We like to eat at Outback too!

Also glad to hear the wallet is working out ok for you. Thanks again for choosing us as your supplier for your Betty Boop products!!!

I have never had a driver's license photo that I liked either! I think the camera intentionally makes us all look bad! LOL! Or at least I do anyway!

Haha! We ALL do, at least in California. The long wait to get the license then the wait to get the photo taken makes it hard to stay in a good mood. By the time you get in front of the camera you just want to get out of there and don't care!:eek:

Bikerbettyboop
08-29-2006, 02:56 PM
Here in Arizona you can get a driver's license that is good for 15 years! When I renewed mine in 1998, my hair was a lot shorter than it is now! I look a lot different now!! A lot older!! LOL!