Advice On Relationships?

[Spoiled14]

TO EVERYONE THAT IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WELL HERES A THREAD THAT HOPEFULLY HELP EVERYONE OUT. WERE ALL LIKE FAMILY AND THAT I KNOW OF WE CAN TELL EACH OTHER ANYTHING SO IF ANYONE HAS ANY PROBLEMS LET TALK ABOUT THEM, CUZ THATS WHAT FRIENDS AND FAMILY DO. I'LL BE THE FIRST TO LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT I WAS IN A ABUSE RELATIONSHIP AND I REALLY DON'T KNOW IF WHAT I DID WAS RIGHT BUT I WILL LET ALL KNOW MY STORY. I WAS 21 WHEN MY EX BOYFRIEND WAS SENT TO PRISON FOR 4 YEARS, AND I KNEW HE WOULD DO HALF OF THE 4 YEARS. WELL WHEN HE WENT IN I CHEATED ON HIM AND HIS FAMILY FOUND OUT. AND NOW THEY HATE ME HIS WILLING TO TAKE ME BACK. BUT I'M WITH SOMEONE THAT HIS SO MUCH KINDER THEN MY EX. OK THIS IS MY QUESTION. DID I DO WORNG BY CHEATING ON HIM? I STOP LOVING HIM A LONG TIME AGO. WHEN HE WENT IN I DIDN'T LOVE HIM. I DIDN'T LEAVE HIM WHEN HE WAS OUT CUZ I WAS SCARED THE HE WOULD HURT HIMSELFT AND HIS FAMILY WOULD BLAME ME FOR IT. WHEN I DID LEAVE HIM THEY DID BLAME ME CUZ HE WANTED TO KILL HIMS SELF. HOPE YOU CAN HELP :confused:

[ooohlala]

Well you did wrong to cheat but if you stopped loving him a long time a go and the man you are with now is much kinder then really there isnt much contest! But I'm not so sure about the self-harming thing. I cant help you there!

[BBooper]

i don't think it's fair on him or you to go through a relationship if there is no love. as for self harm, i think he needs professional help, becuase it's abit OTT. i know people who have tried hurting themselves over people they think they love, and i personally think its just rediculous, if you really love someone, why put them through the guilt of making them believe they have made you hurt yourself? those are just my views and i hope noone was offended by them, if anyone is please tell me and i will edit them out! thank you ;)

BBooper
xxx

[Spoiled14]

no i'm ok with what you had to say. i did stop loving my ex a long time ago i just stayed with him cuz i didn't want him to hurt himself. and i'm not getting back with him since he is getting out this year. and i am happy with the man i'm with now. thanks for your help both ooohlala & BBooper

[ooohlala]

No problems Spoiled! Just boop if need anymore advice :P!
Just do what you feel is right!

[BBooper]

yea, i think thats the best thing to do, go with what your heart is saying! :)

BBooper
xxx

[ooohlala]

Follow your nose!!!!!! :P

[BBooper]

lol ooohlala!! :P :D

BBooper
xxx

[ooohlala]

hehehe! I've got my hypo/funny head on today as my sensible one is still in recovery!

[BBooper]

lol!! i have one of those too :P hehe!

BBooper
xxx

[ooohlala]

I have it on most days too! My brother has it on 24/7!

[Neckless]

I STOP LOVING HIM A LONG TIME AGO. WHEN HE WENT IN I DIDN'T LOVE HIM.

THere's a lot going on in this statement.

[bettyboopfan]

First off, this is just my opinion.

You shouldn't stay with anyone if you don't love them.
You make the situation worse by "acting" like you love the person. You are leading the person on and they believe you love each other. It is better to get out of a relationship when you have no feelings for the other person. Sticking around is only going to make things more complicated in the end. As far as trying to hurt themselves if you leave, some thing else is going on here. This person needs professional help. You can't take responsiblilty for their behavior. If I was you, I would remove myself from this situation and have nothing else to do with it. It doesn't seem like it would ever be a healthy relationship for you to be in. Good luck!

[10eke]

I DIDN'T LEAVE HIM WHEN HE WAS OUT CUZ I WAS SCARED THE HE WOULD HURT HIMSELFT AND HIS FAMILY WOULD BLAME ME FOR IT. WHEN I DID LEAVE HIM THEY DID BLAME ME CUZ HE WANTED TO KILL HIMS SELF. HOPE YOU CAN HELP :confused:

My ex bf had done an attemp in the past, and as I more realised he wasn't the right person for me, I worried for him trying it again if we broke up.. He would have done anything for me, he was so crazy about me... But I didn't feel fine in the relationship. And after a while I did break up with him, because I choose for myself... He never did anything, not that I know of anyway... I'm glad that he didn't, but it was my life and I wanted to be happy, and not be with someone that I didn't love.

[Neckless]

hmmmmm.


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[Spoiled14]

thanks everyone talking to all you and getting adives from all ya means a lot. just so everyone knows i'm not with him and i don't plan on getting back with him. even though he is getting out in two months that isn't going to change. i'm happy with the man i'm with now. And my ex knows now that i don't love him any more. i did get a letter from him last month and in the letter i told him that i wasn't going to write him back and that i don't plan on geting back with him. plus he family doesn't even want us to even talk to one other so and my boyfriend would like me to either after all the things he did to me in the past. But for feels my carring and loving friends thank you for all the adcie you all give me on the problem with my ex. well ladyies have a nice weekend cuz i'm going to sca today and i won't be on the form till monday so talk to all you the :D n

[bettyboop68]

SPOILED 14, What I think you should have done was let him know how you felt. If you were still with him at that time cheating was not the right thing to do. Be very very careful though. If you found someone that you love and you are happy with then you should stay with that person. :D

[anniett]

Hope all goes well with new relationship Spoilt. Sometimes things do get out of hand and you don't know what's best to do, after all we're all human and we do make mistakes. Look after yourself keep safe and you know us boopers are hear for you any time.
:) :)
Anniett xx

[anniett]

Hope all goes well with new relationship Spoilt. Sometimes things do get out of hand and you don't know what's best to do, after all we're all human and we do make mistakes. Look after yourself keep safe and you know us boopers are hear for you any time.
:) :)
Anniett xx
sorry Spoiled14 not spoilt

[Spoiled14]

girls i don't know what to do any more. i'm so heart broken that i don't even want to do anything. i broke up with the one i love and i want him back, but he doesn't know if he wants me back i'm so hurt that i just don't know what to do any more

[ooohlala]

I'm so sorry to hear that spoiled......how r u coping?

[anniett]

So sorry Spoiled
xx

[Bikerbettyboop]

HI Spoiled... how's it going? Have you been able to get things resolved with your relationship? I hope it works out for you.