~ * ~ Internet Dating ~ * ~

[Neckless]

Would you meet and/or date someone you met on the internet? How risky can it really be? Some are bolder than others. SOme people have actually had a good connection via internet!

[MizzBettyBoop]

internet datin cn b ok aslong as u r urself n only meet up wiv the person if you r wiv a friend or parent or summat! b aware of the weirdos out ther ;) have fun xx MizzBettyBoop ;)

[melisa73074]

no way Jose. NEVER. it sounds scary.

[Neckless]

Oh...not for me. I'm just trying to keep some interesting topics rolling!

I don't think I would be interested. I'm a tad-bit untrusting of others!!

[Candlesnboop]

I meet my hubby there and we have been happy for the past 2 and a half years and happily married one and now have a baby one the way. My brother also meet his wife online as well. They have been married for 4 years.!! I have some good advice if some one wantst to try. Let me know:):):):)

[Boopfan713]

Hi There;
Meeting someone on the internet has its risks of course. I would not recommend it for teenagers.
I know people who have met some great people - future husbands perhaps ? - online. So it works.
I did not have luck with it myself.... I got stood up.
John

[Candlesnboop]

Yes you do have to be carfull there are lost of weridos out there but I meet some interesting people. The best thing to do is to meet with whomever at a very public place!! Ie the mall!!:) An always let someone know what you are doing where you are going and that you will call the ASAP to let them know how things went.

[Neckless]

Hmmm.
R I S K Y B I Z!!

There are some good/bad "dates" on/off line.

To each his own! You can't cheat destiny. What's gonna happens...gonna happen anyway.

[Candlesnboop]

Cute line Ne'ess

[BBooper]

i don't like internet dating becuase you never knoqw who your talking to, people are not always who they say they are!

BBooper
xxx

[melisa73074]

I met my hubby the old fashion way, At work.<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/3/3_4_27.gif' border=0></a>

[Candlesnboop]

LOL I am just lucky my hubby can fix my computer or I would not be on here:D:D:D

Tata 4 Now

[Neckless]

i don't like internet dating becuase you never knoqw who your talking to, people are not always who they say they are!

Hmmm. I recall this happening to people sitting across from each other in the bars...churches...at the gym...working upstairs on the next floor...carpooling...grocery store...etc.
Eyes wide shut...I mean open!

People meet every day with the same person (from work) and have a beautiful time getting to know each other during lunch. The minute the date is set and they get out together in the same car...O my! He/she turns into something that should be caged!

Remember what Forest Gump said..."Momma always said life was like a box of chocolates...you never know what c'ha gonna get!".

I think if I was going to communicate with someone on line...that's all it would ever be. My on line fantasy!!

Either way it goes...it's a chance to take!

[melisa73074]

yea but no i still would not because u cant see them.

[Melissa Jones]

each to their own i say. My cousin met her hubby on line but sadly they are seperated, & met my b'friend whilst living across the road (and i have to say that after 4 years things aren't so good and a trail seperation is pending). So you never can tell where or when you are gonna meet "the one". I wish those that had found theirs all the very best. and happy hunting for those still waiting.

[BBooper]

plus i think people online can easily be 'fake', like lie to impress you becuase they don't have to look at your face and lie straight to you. I say, it's better to be safe then sorry ;)

BBooper
xxx

[Neckless]

life is like a box of chocolates...you never know what c'ha gonna get!".

[melisa73074]

Yea right, i thought i would of married a rich man, NOT.<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_30_121.gif' border=0></a>
Because luv is blind!!!!!!

[Neckless]

You've got the picture! Love has one of the most misunderstood meanings in the world. Yet we all want to be there. Ain't love something?
Hehehe.

[melisa73074]

Yea it even sometimes make u crazy!<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_4_167.gif' border=0></a>

[Neckless]

hehe. Yeah!

[melisa73074]

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[Neckless]

Since posting this topic...I've met a few people who rely on the internet for dating.
They tell the person exactly what they feel...what they're looking for and what they expect and just go kinda go from there.

[Neckless]

OMG! My brother says he met a really nice lady on the net. He went to meet her about 2 weeks ago. I haven't talked to him to find out how it went.

[lilhommieb74]

maybe u should call him and ask....... do u trust internet dating neckless?

[melisa73074]

there goes a point, because my brother dont like it because the girls r looking for one thing, and its not him!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

[lilhommieb74]

lol dats funny i don trust internet cuz ppl r always lying

[melisa73074]

got that right!!!!!!!

[lilhommieb74]

hmmm dey would 1 thing and it woould b complete oppisite!!!

[melisa73074]

LOL!!!!!

[lilhommieb74]

its tru!!!!

[melisa73074]

i dont know because i dont do it, i just saying what i hear!!!!!!!

[lilhommieb74]

well somtimes ppl lie but if some1 is really tring 2 meet some1 den dey would tell da truth....

[Candlesnboop]

My hubby n I meet online. We meet an everything was great from there on. Now we have a baby coming :D:D:D

[Neckless]

Ummmm...I'm not sure if I do trust net dating, Lilhommie.
IMO...whether you meet them on Main street and make eye contact...........or rush home every afternoon and pull your secret other person up on the net...there is the underlying factor of risks.

My brother is very impressed with the lady he met on the net. She is a nurse in the pediatrics department in a hospital. She's relatively attractive (he says) and a little on the heavy side. Great sense of humor, a mother of a 22 year old (college student) and has her own home...divorced 2 years. She has a big dog who lives inside the house and because of the live in mutt...he didn't want to eat anything that she cooked. He chose to take her out for dinner and lunch a couple of times while he was there for the weekend. It gave him a chance to really check her out. (he says).

[Bikerbettyboop]

Lisa, I think your story is an exception and not necessarily the rule to meeting someone online.

I have heard of people who have made it work but I've heard some real horror stories too... so please use caution.

[lilhommieb74]

dats wat im talkin bout.....somtimes der r complete phycos out der dat would tell u to meet dem somewhere and neva show up..... dats wat i would hate 2 be all excited den meet someone complety different frm wat dey said.....

[melisa73074]

Cnograts candles, u r one of the lucky ones!!!!!!!!!

[lilhommieb74]

yea candles u r a real lucky person i mean look at u ur having a baby!!! and u owe it all 2 da internet!lol

[melisa73074]

LOL!!!

[Candlesnboop]

I went through good internet dating places, never cost me a penny, but I have meet two or three guys that were really nice. I never ever had any of them at my house till I knew them. That only ended up to be one of em. You have to know how to look also. I read a lot of descriptions and you have to know what to look for and you can tell when they are really nice when they tell you that they like the fact that you are responsible. If you know someone is resposible you can make things good. My hubby when I talked to him made him sound realy resposible. He had never been married, had a concecutive Job for 7 years and had his own house and his own car, with two dogs. I knew he was a good guy when he understood that no matter what my little boy came first. When I first meet him after talking to him for over 4 months online he had a gift for me n my son. He though I was very responsible cause I was a part time college student part time worker at a fast food joint n also that I was a full time mom all trying to make it on my own. I know I am lucky to find my man on-line and I know that there are creeps out there. I meet a few, but a women should know when to just walk away when they see that their date is not what they expect. The rules are big for internet dating. The first thing is never to give out your addy nor your last name or phone number....but if you meet always do it in daylight let someone know where you are going when you are and that you will talk to them when you are done that way if something happens they know where you were last....N always meet in a place where there are lots of people or take a friend with you.....

Again yes, I am lucky but I belive I found my Soul Mate~~:)

[bettyboopfan]

I also met my husband off the internet. We have been married for 5 1/2 years. We have two beautiful daughters together. Alot of people were against me dating him. Just because of the fact we met off the internet. Everyone was asking how could I trust him. You don't start off trusting someone completly. You build trust in a person. I learned to trust him the same way I learned to trust previous boyfriends that I didn't met on the internet. Not everyone on the net is crazy or dangerous. (My brother-in-law met his wife on the net and they have been married for 4 years and just had beautiful twin girls.) You just have to be really careful. When my husband and I first met, I never went anywhere alone with him. Then we I started going out by myself with him I always made sure people knew where I was going and when I would be back. But when I met him something just clicked and I knew that we were meant to be together. He never and still has never gave me any reason to not trust him. I am sorry folks, I am just rambling about here. Here I am a new person and I am just talking away. I hope I didn't make anyone upset. Yes, you can find wonderful people on the net. My husband is proof of that!!

[Melissa Jones]

Thats great news Candles & bettyboopfan, i'm very happy for you both. Regardless of the start the fact that you have found your someone special is truely amazing. I wish you all the very best and tons of happiness.

Safety is a big issue in every sence of dating not just online. Ie letting friends know where you are etc.

[bettyboopfan]

Thanks Melissa, and you are correct on the safety issues!

[Melissa Jones]

u r welcome. i love it when people are happy and their dreams are being fufilled.

[bettyboopfan]

Me too!

[Melissa Jones]

:)

[Neckless]

Any relationship that works out is a blessing. Whether we met our knight and shinning armour on Love Street or the Internet.
1-3-7 years and counting is great! I commend each of you.

There is STILL a risk factor.

Different strokes for different folks.

Any and everyone KNOWS that a lot of creep-o's crawl the internet looking for innocent prey. (and they succeed)

I commend you girls/guys who have had successful catches.

Best of luck and continued happiness 2 U!

[bettyboopfan]

I totally agree with you Neckless. There is a risk factor in any form of dating.

[Neckless]

ABSOTOOTELUTELY!!<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_7v.gif' alt='Cool' border=0></a>

[bettyboopfan]

:D

[Neckless]

SMTA
sharp minds think alike!

[Candlesnboop]

GMTA!!!:D

Great minds....

[Neckless]

M'Liss...how are things going with you these days?

[Neckless]

My brother is hooking up with his internet date again in October. I can't wait to meet her...I think he's bringing her around. Not sure.

[bettyboopfan]

How is that going?

[Neckless]

Well...apparently they are still communicating. She is coming to see him in October. Don't know which day. He's a little ticked off b'cause she wants him to pay for her flight.

Don't know what kind of arangements they made before...or anything.
I DO want to be a fly on the wall!! (hehehe)

[bettyboopfan]

Hmmmm, if she is coming to see him, she should pay.

A fly on the wall.....that could be interesting!

[Neckless]

"A fly on the wall.....that could be interesting!"

Hehehe. Wouldn't dare try that!! Oh my!!
(hahaha) I'd come up missing.

[bettyboopfan]

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[Neckless]

<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/17/17_1_12v.gif' alt='Angel' border=0></a>Poor Neckless...she WAS a good Booper!!
(hahah)

[bettyboopfan]

The best!

[Neckless]

<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/im/ur.gif' alt='You Are' border=0></a>too!!

[Neckless]

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Say What ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

My sons fiance told us this at dinner last night! THe woman is her friend.

I was told today that a man and woman who met on the internet...finally got to meet each other for the first time. She was from Missouri and the man was from some part of Nevada.

Ok...they had been communicating on line for 5 months...and occassionally made phone calls to each other. His voice too was really nice. They became very anxious to meet. She finally felt comfortable enough to post a pic of herself and eventually of her two daughters for him to see. The man eventually posted a picture of himself and some kiddies. She was impressed with his "on line" conversation and the way he looked on the picture he posted of "himself"...and that voice...she said it was paralyzing.
Ok...
Finally, they got down to where they were ready to actually meet.

Before she flew out to Missouri, they explained to each other what to look for so they could recognize each other at the airport. He told her he would pick her up.
When she got there...this man was nothing like the picture he posted to her on line. They left the airport in a cab...because he had no car. He lived in an apartment that was in a really seedy section of Nevada...after telling her he lived in the area of the casinos.
Although the man was really nice...he was nothing like he portrayed himself to be on line and via phone. He wasn't that bad looking...but he wasn't the man on the picture. She was really outdone that he lied to her in every way. The voice was the only thing he had going for himself.

He didn't try anything out of line with her...luckily for her. But he did ask her if she would come back again and see him.

She said she will NEVER conversate on line with anyone again. She found it to be an awful and hurtful experience.

[bettyboopfan]

You can meet some real cheese heads on line.
I did meet a guy who was NOTHING like he told me and it was kinda freaky cause the first night I met him he was telling me that he was falling in love with me. FREAK!! So that was the end of that.

To each their own is what I say...If she feels like she could never trust anyone else on the internet then maybe she shouldn't try it again. She should just know that not everyone she meets is going to be like that guy. There can be a rotten apple in every bunch and unfortunately that one rotten apple can cause the others to ruin.
I do wish her luck and hope she does find that someone special she is in search for!!

[Neckless]

Well Dr/ BBfan...that was well said. Very fine tuned...I must say.
Can you help me too?

May I sit here on the <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/3/3_9_4v.gif' alt='Psychologist' border=0></a>couch and tell you how this guy clicked on line and there I was...with not a...Ooooopps.

[bettyboopfan]

Yes, yes, go on...I am listening

[Neckless]

er-r-r-rr-doctor...i forgot what i was saying. i remember when i was in the...er-r-r..ummm...i forgot that too.
O...o...o...i do remember being a betty boop fan!!!
(hehehe)

[bettyboopfan]

A betty boop fan did you say???? Well me too!!
You are fine my child....there is not a thing wrong with you!!
Get up off this couch and get out there and start booping!

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[Neckless]

love it...love it!!!
Aahhhhh-hahah.
Girl...<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_30_109.gif' alt='You Rock' border=0></a>YOU do!!

[bettyboopfan]

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[Neckless]

You're welcome...

BBfan!!! We're just posting and getting our numbers up. Booping is contagious!!

[bettyboop68]

I would not! Now I know in the past it has brought people together that are happy now but you really have to use discretion. You have no idea who is behind these names. My brother in law met a woman online and left his wife and five kids for her.

[Neckless]

This is my comment. From AUGUST 11, 2004...

"IMO...whether you meet them on Main street and make eye contact...........or rush home every afternoon and pull your secret other person up on the net...there is the underlying factor of risks."

I don't reckon I could collect data from a computer and date!

[lilhommieb74]

i totally agree<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_11_2.gif' border=0></a> also sometimes ppl may post pics and it wont even be them!!

[Neckless]

On 9/29/04 @ 6:02pm I wrote: "Although the man was really nice...he was nothing like he portrayed himself to be on line and via phone. He wasn't that bad looking...but he wasn't the man on the picture".

Right Lil. Go back and read this in it's entirety on the date listed above. It's quite interesting.

[bettyboopfan]

Very interesting.....

[Neckless]

Of course!

[bettyboopfan]

No doubt about it

[Neckless]

What about talking on the telephone?

Some people have telephone numbers that they have accidentally dialed...and were able to strike up a conversation with the voice on the other end and...now they carry on a conversation with someone over the phone that they have never in life before--seen!!

I have accidentally called a wrong number and the other party was very nice and tried to be helpful...and at the end of the conversation they told me to have a nice day and call back again sometimes.

Would you talk on a regular basis to someone on the phone and NEVER meet them?

[bettyboopfan]

I use to talk to this guy I met online, on the phone.

He would call me on Saturdays and I would call him on Wednesdays.

We would talk for hours......I knew we would never meet and it was weird cause I felt like I knew him.

My phone bill was outrageous!!

Oh did I mention he lived in Ireland and I live in Oklahoma, USA??

Yea!! Cost me some bucks!!

[Neckless]

Ireland?? Wow!! I imagine that was costly.

[Spoiled14]

i don't think that theres really anything worng with dating someone over the internet. Hey you just migh find that one special someone. thank god that i have someone that loves me and i don't need to find another man to keep me happy. My babe already does that. so it really depends on the person and how they are feeling at the time

[bettyboopfan]

Originally posted by Neckless
Ireland?? Wow!! I imagine that was costly.

Yea!! One of my phone bills was like $500.00!!!

I kick myself everytime I think about how much money I spent on a PHONE BILL!!!!

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[Spoiled14]

i meet someone, but my friend was the one that gave him my number, and he always called me

[Neckless]

Awwwwww. Young love!!
That's so sweet.

[bettyboopfan]

Sweet sweet sweet!

[Spoiled14]

but i don't talk to him any more, but its cool with me i find someone who does love me and does call me all the time.

[Neckless]

Take your time. Don't be emotionally played.

[bettyboopfan]

I thought you said in the other thread you had a man, spoiled?

[Neckless]

errr-r-r-rr...hmmm.

[bettyboopfan]

Dunno! Just was asking.....a little confused

[Neckless]

BOT...
My brother's internet date DID fly in to spend their vacation together...after the initial meeting.
Now...when she came, he picked her up from the airport and STOPPED at a spirits store...as per her request.

Once they made it to his home...she changed into something relaxing and picked up that bottle of spirits and NEVER put it down. She became disoriented and dysfunctional and made a total mess of her time with him (in his home).

Well needless to say...he became angered and told her to pack up her ___ and that he was taking her back to the airport ahead of schedule. My younger brother told me that my elder brother told the lady he was flying out on an emergency to see a friend who had become suddenly ill...because he couldn't deal with her drinking uncontrolably. (That was just a lie that he told her)

It cost him $200.00 to make the adjustment in the ticket and flight...but to him...it was ___well worth it.

So that's the end of internet dating for him...I think!
She has called to inform him that she did make it home safe and sound.
He told her that he was sorry that it couldn't havebeen better.

[Neckless]

By the way...he put up with her for 3 days. She was originally planning to stay 6 days abd fly back to her home in the 7th day.

Didn't happen.

[bettyboopfan]

WOW!!

I would have hated to be in that situation.

And she had no respect at all for your bother.
Coming into his home acting like that!
I would have shipped her back home the first day!

[Neckless]

well...he's back with an "old flame" now. guess he's happy.

[Candlesnboop]

Sounds better than that trash he started with:) At least he is happy.

[Neckless]

Actually...HE didn't START with her
...she was an internet date that he met a few months ago, and decided to visit each other.

***Mind you...THese people live in different parts of the world.***

He visited with her in her home and passed the test (literally)
She visited him in HIS home...(never got to square one)

[bettyboopfan]

I hope he is happy now!

[bettybooper25]

I seperated from my husband over the summer and started my divorce...and i didnt start workin yet, so while the kids were in school all there was to do was hang on the internet, i got so bored i found my self lookin through yahoo personals, i found kevin...we talked for about a week, and one night we were chattin, i had to go to the store, he did too, so we met up at frys and did our shoppin together, (in a public, well lit place of course) and well, long story short, it was the best connection ever, i would do it again in a heart beat. I just take my time, I chat with them alot online and see pics of them and all before i meet them...but it is a great way to meet that special someone that u have stuff in common with:)

[dandydannii]

I WOULD JUST AS LONG AS IT WAS A PUBLIC PLACE

[bettybooper25]

thats the important step...
i dont do private places like their house...and you can kinda tell after talkin for a while and terms they use on how they actually are

[bettybooper25]

i have heard of some turnin out badly though

[Candlesnboop]

On the other hand internet dating can work out. I married my internet date, we have been together for two years and married 1 1/2 years with a baby on the way, witch reminds me I need to start a new thread.:D

[bettybooper25]

Originally posted by Candlesnboop
On the other hand internet dating can work out. I married my internet date, we have been together for two years and married 1 1/2 years with a baby on the way, witch reminds me I need to start a new thread.:D wow...it is so sweet to hear that...congrats;)

[Candlesnboop]

Thanks BB25:)

[bettybooper25]

np

[Neckless]

Well LIGHTED...POPULATED...PUBLIC PLACE...number one answer...if I were going to chance dating someone from the net.

[Candlesnboop]

Yep!! During the day.

[Neckless]

well lighted...can be a night. as long as there are plenty of people moving about.
I figure...it's a chance to take either way it goes.

[bettyboopfan]

I think there is always a chance to take when you date anyone.

There is that chance no matter where you meet them at...... work,
a bar, grocery store, on the street, next door neighbor, or the internet. Everyone just has to be extra careful and use their common sense.

[Neckless]

Absolutely

[Neckless]

My Gal-Pals and I were discussing this yesterday. Anyone care to shed a little light on this matter?

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Why do you think so many teenaged girls...(boys too) are logging on line and meeting "OLDER" men/women sometimes...even MILES away from their homes?

They wind up waaay somewhere...and nobody can find them..until THEY are ready to be found.

Should some of the laws be changed as far as what age a "child" becomes an adult?
What about statutory rape?
There are men doing time...after being led on and not to mention "lied to" as far as their age...by well developed teen girls. Should he be held accountable?
Even some 12 year olds ...think they are ready for the world and ALL that it has to offer and then some.

[Neckless]

comments anyone??

[bettyboopfan]

Are the men telling these young girls online that they are the same age as these girls?

[Neckless]

possibly so. For the most part...these guys tell them how old they are. I think these young girls get a "kick" out of being "chosen" by an older man. It happens in the US moreso than anywhere else. I got this info from a friend who lives in Atlanta. SHe says they have had a couple of school aged girls 14 and 16 year olds who have pulled this very "dumb" stunt.

You never heard of this??

[BettyBooop]

Originally posted by bettyboopfan
I use to talk to this guy I met online, on the phone.

He would call me on Saturdays and I would call him on Wednesdays.

We would talk for hours......I knew we would never meet and it was weird cause I felt like I knew him.

My phone bill was outrageous!!

Oh did I mention he lived in Ireland and I live in Oklahoma, USA??

Yea!! Cost me some bucks!!



HI :) oklahoma here also ( moore )

[BettyBooop]

hi everyone I hope you donot mind me putting my two cents in here :-)
My husband is a law enforcement officer and comes home very often* atleast once a week sometimes more* telling me stories of ladies and MEN getting beat up and raped when they met someone offline. think it could not happen to you? It can . When my husband and I had been married just 3 years ( almost9 now)
a man showed up at my door. See I chatted in yahoo chat rooms and one of the men seen my picture and decided i was going to marry him! I had never spoke to him before! He hacked my computer and got my address!! He told my husband we had never met or spoke but we was meant to be together! He then decided he would force his way in to our home! I am very lucky my husband is in law enforcement and had him handcuffed with in a few minutes and taken off to jail! anyways I guess my point is. its not just meeting someone off line that is dangrous. it is just being on the net and chatting period.. My advice. when you sign up for chat or anything like that. use a fake last name and wrong address. never meet someone offline alone. even if it is in the mall. They could slip something in your drink and drug you take you home and rape or worse kill you. I am glad some have found true love online. it can happen but there is also a great risk in doing so. if you dont believe me i can get you in contact with CHILDREN and ADULTS that are now suffering because of what they went through. Now that being said. it is a risk dating anyone you donot know. Safety in numbers and very well lighted busy places.I think we can all agree that our lifes is not something worth playing with. I also think you should go in numbers more then once. The first date people are usualy on the best behaviour. but if they go out with you and your friends say 4-5 times usualy you get to see more of the real them :)

Catrina


P.S i am not saying dating on the net can not work. I am saying it is a high risk and if you want to do that you should go in to it with knowing their is a risk. Also always leave a note at your home saying WHO you are with and their phone number and email address. JUST IN CASE. Never take anything in your purse that will have your address on it either. I understand you have to take your I.D but never take a bill or anything where they can find out your address. never go straight home after the date. have them drop you off somewhere a long ways away. so they will be unable to follow you home. *ofcource they still can* but the chances of them following you as you go to walmart or shop at the mall for a few hours is not as likely :)

[BettyBooop]

Originally posted by Neckless
My Gal-Pals and I were discussing this yesterday. Anyone care to shed a little light on this matter?

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Why do you think so many teenaged girls...(boys too) are logging on line and meeting "OLDER" men/women sometimes...even MILES away from their homes?

They wind up waaay somewhere...and nobody can find them..until THEY are ready to be found.

Should some of the laws be changed as far as what age a "child" becomes an adult?
What about statutory rape?
There are men doing time...after being led on and not to mention "lied to" as far as their age...by well developed teen girls. Should he be held accountable?
Even some 12 year olds ...think they are ready for the world and ALL that it has to offer and then some.



IMO if a teenage boy or girl 12-15 years old goes online and says they are say 25 and then meets someone (and you can tell by LOOKING at them that they are under 18) and you still have *** with them . they should be charged. The adult should know by looking at that child they are younger and they should question it. If the child Looks over the age of say 20 or so and THEY said ok to *** i dont think the other person should be charged. But i have pitty on anyones soul that has *** with someone with out knowing for sure how old the person is JMO

[Neckless]

hmmm...there are some pretty aggressive 14 year olds out here. THey are wearing heavy make-up and are developed and have a conversation that will kill a tough OLD donkey!!

The boys (for the most part) can't hide thei youth...but the girls can hide behind make-up. Their looks can indeed be decieving.

[Boop'n'Cheeks]

I absolutely agree with you Bettybooop and Neckless. In my opinion i think it's very dangerous and not even worth taking that chance. Almost everyday you hear about children and teenagers being abducted, raped or even murdered over situations like this. It can work miracles for some but not all. Majority of people in this world are liars and especially chatting with these men/women in which you never know are just pure predators. If anyone does chat I suggest taking the pre cautions that Bettybooop has given.Yes there are many aggressive teenagers out there and let me tell you i was once a liar at the age 14 saying that i was 18 and got my self into some slippery situations but that was from meeting people off the street, nothing to do with computer.Just imagine going through that not even knowing what you'd be getting yourself into in these chat rooms. Got to be careful....

[bettyboopfan]

Originally posted by BettyBooop
HI :) oklahoma here also ( moore )

Hey there Okie!
I use to live and work in Moore.
I moved back to my home town after having my first baby.

Welcome to the forum and have fun!

[BBooper]

i personally think that chat room's should have a resriction. i think forums like this are great becuse they are well monitored. other which don't have moderators i think should be closed down. I think one on one chatting things (my technical terms!) which you have add people yourself are ok. If you can't get into a chat room to get strangers email address to add them than your ok, and you can add your close friends and faily... people you know and meet.

BBooper
xxx

[bettyboop100]

i know that the bill is only a show but once when i watched it there was a young girl of 18 who got abducted from meeting a man online so i never trust online dating and also what happened to people meeting up with like family friends then people actually know stuff about the person ?

[BBooper]

You say it's ONLY show but i think it's a good show to tell people what thing's happen today. and it's in a form of a story so people watch it!

BBooper
xxx

[Neckless]

"i was once a liar at the age 14 saying that i was 18 and got my self into some slippery situations"

Yeah. THis does happen. It's alive and well. All too often these adolescents get behind the scenes on line and giggle, talk and lie themselves into "slipper situations" too. Sometimes...fatal.
It's not only girls.

[Pudgy05]

That's true, I always get creeped out by stuff like that, but I feel safe on this forum and I would trust everyone on here not to do things like that! You are all too nice! :)
Pudgy
xxx

[Neckless]

Good. Sound mind. Better safe...than sorry!!

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[Neckless]

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[Neckless]

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[Neckless]

My brother-in-law says...

Yeah women/girls get caught up in different situations because we LOVE to be told that we are cute and look really smashing and "what a nice set of eyes" or "teeth" we have etc.

"even via internet".

What do you think?

[BBooper]

i think this forum is great because it is well monitored! if anyone was being out of hand they would be stopped!

BBooper
xxx

[Neckless]

True

...BUT
Outside of this forum...there is the REAL life chance that someone can be misled.

THIS is Just a general discussion.

[BBooper]

yeah, thats why i think these places are best!

BBooper
xxx

[lilhommieb74]

sooo tru!!

[Neckless]

Originally posted by BBooper
yeah, thats why i think these places are best!

BBooper
xxx

Hmmm. Yeah...I see what you mean.
Unfortunately...these places don't appeal to them. There's not enough " Fizz " in the " Bizz ".
That's why there's so many in the age range of 12 to 17 in trouble.
They seemingly WANT to be involved in these " slippery situations ".

One thing leads to another.

[Neckless]

Anyone else done internet dating?

[bettyboopfan]

Yes I dated people from the internet. This is a posted from awhile back.


I also met my husband off the internet. We have been married for 5 1/2 years. We have two beautiful daughters together. Alot of people were against me dating him. Just because of the fact we met off the internet. Everyone was asking how could I trust him. You don't start off trusting someone completly. You build trust in a person. I learned to trust him the same way I learned to trust previous boyfriends that I didn't met on the internet. Not everyone on the net is crazy or dangerous. (My brother-in-law met his wife on the net and they have been married for 4 years and just had beautiful twin girls.) You just have to be really careful. When my husband and I first met, I never went anywhere alone with him. Then we I started going out by myself with him I always made sure people knew where I was going and when I would be back. But when I met him something just clicked and I knew that we were meant to be together. He never and still has never gave me any reason to not trust him. I hope I didn't make anyone upset. Yes, you can find wonderful people on the net. My husband is proof of that!!

[pinkprincess]

LOL I would have to say that I would for sure meet someone from the net or even date that person. But, since I've already done it about a million times, then yeah lol

I think I've only dated one guy that I didn't meet on the net. Is that so sad or what? I'm such a freak! I actually met my current bf on cupid.com. The couple before him as well. You have to be careful with that though. Not only do the wacko's live on here, but also jerks! I've been in so many bad net dating relationships that it's not even funny. If you're a girl, beware, guys are just using the net to make sure they can detatch themselves when they rejected...they're really just looking for...well, "a piece" if you know what I mean.

Pinkie

[LilMizNaughty25]

I am only 15 and i don't think boy my age come on this site

[scotbooper]

Luckily for me i found my perfect partner years before the internet came along.But if i were looking for a partner i don't think i'd use internet dating,it's just not for me. This is not to say that i believe it to be a bad thing,some people do find genuine happiness this way.But my point is internet or not,it's always wise to exercise a little caution when meeting new people under any circumstances.Things(and indeed people)are not always as they seem....Take care ;)

[Bikerbettyboop]

Nice message with good suggestions ms. Bonny Scotland!!

I know a woman who just met a man via the internet... turns out both of them were sending one another old photographs and trying to tell one another they were younger than they actually are! She said he was pretty annoyed at her and she was annoyed at him too and I had to laugh cause both of them were guilty of "not telling the truth". Good thing they met at a public place and she took a friend along with her.. otherwise she thinks he could've gotten mean with her. I told her she needs to BEWARE of internet dating!!!

It just all sounds too scarey for me and I'm soooooo glad that I am happily married!

[Boopfan713]

Ms Bonny Scotland? I always thought Scot Booper is a dude from Bonny Scotland. But now I think maybe you might be right. Maybe Scot is not his name but his/her nationality. Can you settle this scotbooper?

[ooohlala]

Scotbooper is a lady........she has a husby!!! LOL

[BBooper]

lol. yea, i think the scot bit is becuase she's scottish :D i thought that at first as well boopfan!

BBooper
xxx

[ooohlala]

:D some people are sooo easily confused :rolleyes:!!!!!! LOL

[scotbooper]

Yes it's true.I am a Scot,and i am a booper.Ergo: Scotbooper :cool: Sorry for any confusion :o

[ooohlala]

So now you no!!! LOL :P

[scotbooper]

And husby sez i am most certainly a woman :D

[BBooper]

lol! your husby sound's like a funny guy :D

BBooper
xxx

[ooohlala]

LOL......yeah he does! Scotbooper - you're a real woman!!! LOL :P

[Neckless]

Nice message with good suggestions ms. Bonny Scotland!!

I know a woman who just met a man via the internet... turns out both of them were sending one another old photographs and trying to tell one another they were younger than they actually are! She said he was pretty annoyed at her and she was annoyed at him too and I had to laugh cause both of them were guilty of "not telling the truth". Good thing they met at a public place and she took a friend along with her.. otherwise she thinks he could've gotten mean with her. I told her she needs to BEWARE of internet dating!!!

It just all sounds too scarey for me and I'm soooooo glad that I am happily married!

Not an "EXCELLENT" idea...at all (Internet dating).

[Candlesnboop]

Not an "EXCELLENT" idea...at all (Internet dating).


You have no idea how an excellent internet dating relationship can develop!! I am upset that you even said this. I am happily married to my husband whom I ment online!!

You should watch what you type before you type it. I am not being mean, but I read what you wrote and to me that is mean.

Remember the words "If you can't say anything nice at all you shouldn't say anything at all."?

Remember that when your posting..... I know I am not a moderator, but.... that is all I have to say.............

[BBooper]

i think this thread could become troubled again :rolleyes: Maybe it should be left, just to ensure no-one else is offended. it can be a sensative subject as everyone has teir own personal views and opinions on the subject.

BBooper
xxx

[ooohlala]

yeah.........this thread is becoming a bit...well lets say upsetting for other boopers......lets leave it!

[mgchan]

Everyone has to understand that members are entitled to their opinion, especially when this is a public forum. You may not always agree with the answer but most importantly we need to not take remarks personally.

The response by Neckless was merely her opinion, not directed towards Candlesnboop. I'm happy that it worked for Candlesnboop, however, this forum is also visited by members under 18 years of age and I strongly do not encourage Internet dating or chat rooms for anyone in that age group.

[ooohlala]

I agree Mgchan.....i'm under 18 and I've never even thought about interent dating!
My thoughts are if you're not happy with a post and you feel you're affended by it, either ignore it or report it. Then either way, everyone's happy! ( We can hope)

[ooohlala]

By the way............I hope that helped!

[mgchan]

You're right ooohlala. The minute anyone is not happy with the topic, post or direction of a thread, contact me and I'll intervene. No member should ever feel uncomfortable visiting or posting here.

[ooohlala]

I never feel uncomfortable coming here because of two reasons.....the site has moderators that do their very best to make veryone feel happy! And I feels it's safe...i never feel like goodness I'm not going back there! i feel happy and I hope evryone else does too!
Well bye bye for now....it's waaaaay past my bed time!

[Candlesnboop]

Is it time to close the thread? Maybe it should if this has been an issue before, I know I have no power to be asking that but if this issure has been raised again to many times mabe it is time.
It is up to you Mgchan. I said what I wanted to say. I feel the same as you said this :

"You're right ooohlala. The minute anyone is not happy with the topic, post or direction of a thread, contact me and I'll intervene. No member should ever feel uncomfortable visiting or posting here."

I did not think to even contact you though.

TATA

Candles

[mgchan]

Okay, I'm closing this thread.